My family and I are going through the same thing. My Uncle died of Alzheimer's, and I was never told about it. I only found out by doing an obituary search, and sure enough, my Trump loving Aunt only talked about her side of the family, and left out myself and my cousins from the obit.
I was happy I talked to him without her knowledge before the Alzheimer's took him while he still recognized voices.
I am so sorry. Politics can be woven through everything, which makes this current political landscape even harder to navigate, and so very painful. Especially when it comes to grief and loss of family members, along with the additional grieving many of us have been doing all along the way with the rifts and distances we feel because some things are so, so hard to bridge... my heart is with you and your Mom through this process, and the whole family for the multiple losses in this time ~
the ex-husband just found out his colon cancer has not responded to the treatment. He is a Scientologist so is denying that his days are numbers...It was a bitter divorce that he created. I was married for 27 years. I want to go to his funeral. I doubt that I will be welcomed by his family.
Sending love & hugs... and pushing all the healing vibes I can through the ether! When my father remarried & moved to Cali, we weren't told when he died. We weren't mentioned in the obit that we found online months after his death either. I have no clue even where he's buried.
My youngest sister has become something of a MAGAt in the years since and, when our mother died last year, it was incredibly awkward. We managed to put it all aside to ensure that mom's wishes were followed, but the distance is still there.
My heart aches for you & your mom - despite your best efforts, it's nearly impossible to pierce that alternate reality veil in which Trump's cult has cloaked themselves. I hope, for their sake, that your cousins include you in their grief because it will be all the more painful if you aren't a part of it as you were in their lives. <3
Amee, I'm so sure that most of us reading this can relate to the estrangements in our families since 2016. I am so sorry that you are facing this loss in the most complicated way. I hope that there is some mending and healing in your family, so that you can share this experience together. I'm sorry for this loss in your life.
I am so sorry. Both my in-laws have passed since February, my mother-in-law only a week ago (Alzheimer's). They became 'conservative' FoxNews watchers, but they never hated us for going the other direction. Politics isn't what divided those that remain - that was the job of addiction and mental illness. It took only hours after my mother-in-law passed last Thursday for the screaming and gaslighting to start. Now that she has transitioned, there is nothing holding the rest of the family together, and I recognize that as sad as it all is, I can't change anyone, and I can't make the situation 'better.' The best I can do is set a boundary between myself and the chaos, extend love from afar, and mind my own welfare, even though I know I may never see some of these people again.
I'm sorry that you're in a similar position. I can feel your sense of loss from your words, but please know you are not alone. I'm extending love and compassion your way.
I am so sorry. Both my in-laws have passed since February, my mother-in-law only a week ago (Alzheimer's). They became 'conservative' FoxNews watchers, but they never hated us for going the other direction. Politics isn't what divided those that remain - that was the job of addiction and mental illness. It took only hours after my mother-in-law passed last Thursday for the screaming and gaslighting to start. Now that she has transitioned, there is nothing holding the rest of the family together, and I recognize that as sad as it all is, I can't change anyone, and I can't make the situation 'better.' The best I can do is set a boundary between myself and the chaos, extend love from afar, and mind my own welfare, even though I know I may never see some of these people again.
I'm sorry that you're in a similar position. I can feel your sense of loss from your words, but please know you are not alone. I'm extending love and compassion your way.
My family and I are going through the same thing. My Uncle died of Alzheimer's, and I was never told about it. I only found out by doing an obituary search, and sure enough, my Trump loving Aunt only talked about her side of the family, and left out myself and my cousins from the obit.
I was happy I talked to him without her knowledge before the Alzheimer's took him while he still recognized voices.
I am so sorry. Politics can be woven through everything, which makes this current political landscape even harder to navigate, and so very painful. Especially when it comes to grief and loss of family members, along with the additional grieving many of us have been doing all along the way with the rifts and distances we feel because some things are so, so hard to bridge... my heart is with you and your Mom through this process, and the whole family for the multiple losses in this time ~
I’m sorry for your impending grief, Amy.
I can relate and it IS, indeed, sad.
I lost my husband of 30yrs to MAGA & FOX.
His alcoholic mind was vulnerable to their brainwashing.
He moved to Florida in 2021, as he said, to be with ‘his people.’
Recently he was in an accident and on life support. Being his ‘legal’ spouse I went to be by his side to make the hard decisions.
At the end, I had my hand on his heart, it beat the same as it did, when I used to rest my head on his chest -yrs ago, in our old life together.
It was loss on top of heartbreak.
Damn the divide trump caused my family to suffer.
Damn him.
the ex-husband just found out his colon cancer has not responded to the treatment. He is a Scientologist so is denying that his days are numbers...It was a bitter divorce that he created. I was married for 27 years. I want to go to his funeral. I doubt that I will be welcomed by his family.
I’m sorry for your loss. So much grief.
I keep asking myself, why did it have to be this way… ?!
I wish you the best of the rest of your life.
I hope they read this.
Sending love & hugs... and pushing all the healing vibes I can through the ether! When my father remarried & moved to Cali, we weren't told when he died. We weren't mentioned in the obit that we found online months after his death either. I have no clue even where he's buried.
My youngest sister has become something of a MAGAt in the years since and, when our mother died last year, it was incredibly awkward. We managed to put it all aside to ensure that mom's wishes were followed, but the distance is still there.
My heart aches for you & your mom - despite your best efforts, it's nearly impossible to pierce that alternate reality veil in which Trump's cult has cloaked themselves. I hope, for their sake, that your cousins include you in their grief because it will be all the more painful if you aren't a part of it as you were in their lives. <3
Amee, I'm so sure that most of us reading this can relate to the estrangements in our families since 2016. I am so sorry that you are facing this loss in the most complicated way. I hope that there is some mending and healing in your family, so that you can share this experience together. I'm sorry for this loss in your life.
I am so sorry. Both my in-laws have passed since February, my mother-in-law only a week ago (Alzheimer's). They became 'conservative' FoxNews watchers, but they never hated us for going the other direction. Politics isn't what divided those that remain - that was the job of addiction and mental illness. It took only hours after my mother-in-law passed last Thursday for the screaming and gaslighting to start. Now that she has transitioned, there is nothing holding the rest of the family together, and I recognize that as sad as it all is, I can't change anyone, and I can't make the situation 'better.' The best I can do is set a boundary between myself and the chaos, extend love from afar, and mind my own welfare, even though I know I may never see some of these people again.
I'm sorry that you're in a similar position. I can feel your sense of loss from your words, but please know you are not alone. I'm extending love and compassion your way.
Just go to them. Be with your family. Love survives.
So very sorry, Amee. Families are complicated, beautiful messes.
I am so sorry. Both my in-laws have passed since February, my mother-in-law only a week ago (Alzheimer's). They became 'conservative' FoxNews watchers, but they never hated us for going the other direction. Politics isn't what divided those that remain - that was the job of addiction and mental illness. It took only hours after my mother-in-law passed last Thursday for the screaming and gaslighting to start. Now that she has transitioned, there is nothing holding the rest of the family together, and I recognize that as sad as it all is, I can't change anyone, and I can't make the situation 'better.' The best I can do is set a boundary between myself and the chaos, extend love from afar, and mind my own welfare, even though I know I may never see some of these people again.
I'm sorry that you're in a similar position. I can feel your sense of loss from your words, but please know you are not alone. I'm extending love and compassion your way.